Free conversation questions
Put the phone down.
Pick a question.
Crosstalk is a free collection of questions that help you really get to know the people around you, and finally talk about the things you normally would not. 25+ lists. Hundreds of questions. Zero small talk.
TODAY'S QUESTION
What is something you wish more people asked you about?
Somewhere along the way, a lot of us forgot how to talk to each other. Not because we do not care. Because the phone is easier, small talk is safer, and nobody taught us how to go deeper.
Crosstalk is the practice. You do not need the perfect words. You need one good question and someone willing to answer it.
How to play
Three steps. That is it.
Pick the moment.
Date night, family dinner, a party full of strangers. Choose the list that fits.
Pick your level.
Warm Up, Get Real or Go Deep. Start easy. Go further when it feels right.
Ask, listen, ask it back.
The magic is not the question. It is getting curious about the answer.
Before you start
House Rules
- The phone stack. Everyone’s phone goes face down in the middle, except one. That one is the Question Keeper: put it on Do Not Disturb, open the list, and pass it to whoever is asking next. Or skip phones completely and use the printout. First person to grab their own phone answers the next Go Deep question. No exceptions.
- Anyone can pass. Everyone gets two passes. No explaining, no guilt. Safe people make honest people.
- Ask it back. Whoever answers gets to throw the same question at someone else.
- Follow the good stuff. If an answer opens something up, stay there. You do not have to finish the list. One great conversation beats twenty questions.
- No fixing, no judging. You are here to understand, not to give advice or win. Say “tell me more” instead.
- Level up together. Start with Warm Up. Only move to Get Real or Go Deep when the whole table is ready.
- What is said at the table stays at the table. Especially the Go Deep answers.
Ways to play
Pass It Around: Pass the list (or the Question Keeper phone). Whoever holds it picks a question for someone else.
Hot Seat: One person answers three questions in a row, everyone else asks.
Guess First: Before your partner answers, guess what they will say. Then compare.
One a Day: Couples and families pull one question at dinner every night for a week.
Text Edition: Send one question a day to someone you miss.
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Relationships are not built through perfect conversations. They are built one conversation at a time.